Navigating Entrepreneurial Burnout: Finding Support and Resilience
he Reality of Entrepreneurial Burnout:
Entrepreneurship is not always the picture-perfect journey we see on Instagram. Behind the scenes, business owners face countless obstacles, setbacks, and moments of self-doubt. When things aren't going as planned, it's easy to feel like giving up, especially when it seems like everyone else is thriving. However, it's crucial to remember that these feelings are normal and that you're not alone in experiencing them.
Strategies for Overcoming Quit Points
1. Take a Step Back
When you're feeling overwhelmed and on the verge of quitting, the first step is to take a step back. Give yourself permission to pause, reassess, and gain perspective. This might mean taking a break from work, spending time with family, or engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.
2. Seek Support from Your Community
As entrepreneurs, we often feel like we have to do everything on our own. However, reaching out to your network and asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Surround yourself with like-minded individuals who understand the challenges you're facing and can offer support, advice, and encouragement.
3. Prioritize Self-Care and Family Time
In the midst of the hustle, it's easy to neglect our own well-being and the relationships that matter most. Make self-care a priority by setting aside time for activities that recharge your batteries, whether it's exercise, meditation, or pursuing a hobby. Additionally, cherish the moments you have with your family, as they provide a grounding force and remind you of what truly matters.
The Power of Community
One of the most valuable resources for entrepreneurs is a supportive community. Surrounding yourself with individuals who understand your struggles, celebrate your successes, and offer guidance can make all the difference in your entrepreneurial journey. Jessica Chavez emphasizes the importance of building authentic relationships within your network, where you can be vulnerable, ask for help, and receive genuine support.
Attending events and conferences, like the upcoming "Power Up" conference hosted by Business Ladies of Society, provides an opportunity to connect with like-minded women, learn from inspiring speakers, and build meaningful relationships. These connections not only provide support during challenging times but also open doors to new opportunities and collaborations.
Conclusion
Navigating the ups and downs of entrepreneurship is no easy feat, but by implementing strategies like taking a step back, seeking support, prioritizing self-care, and building a strong community, you can overcome the quit points and build a thriving business. Remember, you're not alone in this journey, and there is always support available if you're willing to ask for it. Embrace the power of community, be authentic in your relationships, and keep moving forward, one step at a time.
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Transcript for Episode 345. Tempted to Quit? You're Not Alone
Amy [00:00:02]:
As an entrepreneur, we've all had those times when we just want to burn it to the ground when we are so tempted to quit because it feels like nothing's working. My friend, if you have ever felt this way, you are not alone. I have been through this. Today's guest has been through this. This is the reality. And so often in the online space, we glamorize entrepreneurship. Well, today we are pulling back the curtain and sharing with you strategies of how we can navigate through those quit points. Today's guest, Jessica Chavez, is the founder of business Ladies of society.
Amy [00:00:44]:
She helps build thriving communities led by empowered professional women. Jessica, thank you so much for being here today. It's great to have you.
Jessica [00:00:55]:
I'm so excited. I appreciate you so much for having me.
Amy [00:00:58]:
Oh, my gosh. It is my pleasure. So let's talk about these quick points, the quick points as entrepreneurs, because scrolling social media, it looks like everybody's making ten k months, 100k plus years. And we get to the point as entrepreneurs where it's like, okay, I see everybody else out there succeeding, and if I'm having a bad month, you know, it can be really, really defeating to see that and start to get in our heads. And this is something that you've experienced, too. And when I saw this post that you made, I was like, oh, my gosh, we need to talk about this because it's the reality. We're looking at everyone else's highlight reels and forgetting that this is hard. So, as an entrepreneur, I would love to know, how are you able to navigate through some of those quit points in your business?
Jessica [00:01:51]:
Well, if you did see my reel, my post, it was like I was just right there along with everybody else. I was like, okay, I'm done. Like, I don't need this. It's summer. I want to be with my kids. Yeah, it's just, I don't need this. And it's only making me not a better person. Like, it's affecting my mood, my relationships here at home.
Jessica [00:02:15]:
So really taking a step back. And I know that sounds, like, so easy, but I'm not somebody who usually asks for help. I do it all on my own. Um, but I finally was like, okay, like, universe or higher power or whatever your higher power is, mine is God. Um, okay. I keep hearing that I need to hand this over to someone else, whether that's my relationship with God or, um, finding my community. I meet this community of women and I encourage them to rely on one another. And when something's not going right or there's a skill that they don't have to turn to one another.
Jessica [00:02:55]:
But I'm not even doing that myself. So I have definitely built some amazing friendships in this community, and I turn to them. And, you know, it's hard being the business owner and a lot of these friends being my clients, but I really try to create an authentic relationship that we can. We're all women. We're all struggling in this business world, and if. If I can't put my guard down, how do I expect them to put their guard down? So I definitely reached out to some friends, and I also said, you know what it is summer right now? What is the one thing about summer that I can't get back? It's my time with my kids. So I'm turning everything off, and I'm getting out in nature. I live in the Seattle area, so I have it out in my backyard.
Jessica [00:03:48]:
So I grab them, and I've got two of my kids are teenagers. They mumbled and grumbled, but I said, this isn't really about you right now. It's about mom, and I don't want to be with anyone else but you. And it really just put things into perspective.
Amy [00:04:03]:
Thank you so much. Being just so open and honest, because we need to hear that. And this is something so many of us go through. We're going through these periods in our business where things are down, and especially summer. If you were a mom, things are even more of a juggle because if your kids are home now, they're constantly asking you for things. It's so hard to focus when you're running out of business just because they're on summer break. Mama's still working.
Jessica [00:04:38]:
Yeah. And I can't tell you how many times we've had cereal for, like, breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
Amy [00:04:42]:
Cause I'm like, same.
Jessica [00:04:44]:
Go. Make that right.
Amy [00:04:47]:
Yeah, right. Exactly. And we go into survival mode and knowing that, you know what? If you're hearing this and you're going, oh, my gosh, I've totally done that, too. Yeah, you're not alone. Not alone at all. But the fact that you did something as simple as taking a step back. Yes, that sounds like such advice that we hear over and over and over, but that truly is step one. Sometimes you just need to stop.
Amy [00:05:13]:
You need to stop what you're doing and get back to, okay, why am I doing what I'm doing so I can be with my family? So why am I doing what I'm doing again? 24/7 burning myself out? No, let's stop and let's spend some time with my family, because what that does is it refuels your soul, it fills you back up, and it feels counterintuitive because we're so used to go, go, go. I mean, even society just drills it in our minds that more is better. You know, productivity, all the hustle. But when you realize sometimes taking a break is the best thing you can do, it's a game changer. And then to add in, getting outside, just getting some fresh air, that always helps me immediately. How did you feel? Like, did you have any guilt about taking the step back? Or were you just to the point where you're like, nope, I am totally done with this, and something's gotta give here?
Jessica [00:06:12]:
Well, I was at that point. I was at my breaking point. I have felt moments of burnout before, but last week, I really hit that wall. I guess I'm not at my rock bottom because I'm here this week and I'm back with full force. But I experienced the. Just the breakdown. Wanting to throw things, just balling on the floor, like, what is this all for? And that's just. That's the reality of it.
Jessica [00:06:45]:
And we don't see that on Instagram. We see, hey, follow me. And in two months, you're going to have this many followers, and in this month, you're going to be making six figures, seven figures, and you're just like, what did they do? What is it about them that was able to achieve that? And why can't I do that? And not saying it's fluff, but it's only a very small portion. And so I just thrive off of realness. That's how I connect with people. And if you can't be authentic, if I can't feel like there's a connection where we could sit down and have a conversation. I follow a lot of those people just for inspiration, but they're not really my people. I love the people that I can sit down and be like, that is a girlfriend.
Jessica [00:07:37]:
We can have girlfriend conversations, and that's what I need to really motivate me.
Amy [00:07:43]:
Yeah, we all do. We really do. But the thing that I appreciate most about this is that you're saying, I'm no different than you. Like, we all go through this. What you're doing is leading by example. You're showing up as a leader because you are willing to raise your hand and go, I need help. And that is so hard to do. I think those are honestly three of the hardest words to learn how to say, to ask for help, number one.
Amy [00:08:13]:
But then to be willing to receive it. And that is key is being open then to receiving, because we all have people in our network that would support us if we only asked. But think about it. How many times do people ask, what do you need? And you're like, oh, I'm fine, everything's fine. But we're not willing to put ourselves in that position of being vulnerable. But when we do, it helps empower them because it's showing them, hey, you need help too. It's okay. And the reciprocity of that whole piece is real.
Amy [00:08:46]:
People want to help us just as much as we want to help them. And that's where your network really, really helps and is so powerful as an entrepreneur to get you through. How did your network support you through this, this challenging time, and how do they continue to support you?
Jessica [00:09:09]:
Well, backing up just based on what you were saying, like, I was thinking about why it is so hard to ask for help, because there have been times I feel like I have let down my guardhouse and I said, okay, I could use help. And it's always easier said than done. Someone can be like, oh, what can I do for you? And then when you're actually saying, okay, this is what I need, they're like, oh, it was like, oh, I was just supposed to say that. I really didn't have intention behind that. So how does my network, my network have helped me? I really feel like I've attracted the right women, women that are not going to let me down because I know that I've seen it. I've seen them be in similar experiences. I've seen myself be able to swoop in and help and be authentic to them. And so it's just built this level of, like you said, recip.
Jessica [00:10:04]:
I can never say the words you.
Amy [00:10:06]:
Go, I struggled with it for years. Reciprocity. I know. I had to practice that word. It is so funny. Like, can't we come up with a simpler word for it?
Jessica [00:10:15]:
Yeah, we're calling it recipe.
Amy [00:10:18]:
Exactly.
Jessica [00:10:19]:
But I just think that when you build a community of camaraderie and you tirelessly show up, I'm not saying say yes to everything. I'm not saying put down your boundaries. But when there is legit, authentic relationships being built and that trust being built, and they see that you're willing to show up for them, when they've had a rough day, they're going to want to do it. We, we're told all the time that people actually do want to serve. So I think it's just surrounding yourself with the right people. It's not like you go into, you know, friendships and communities with a thought, okay, what am I going to get out of this if I'm, like, struggling? But I think just, yeah, just finding the like minded ladies. And. And I keep saying ladies, for those who are listening, and you read the name of our business, but it is a women's group.
Jessica [00:11:14]:
And so I just cannot express enough how much the ladies in this community actually serve me, more than I could ever think about serving them. So I must be doing something right. Not everyone agrees. The reason I was having such a down week is because someone who just didn't really understand our community just had so many things to say. And it was. It was shocking because it was, like, so out of left field. And I know these things are true, but it still hurts. And so just finding the people that you know are like, that is.
Jessica [00:11:54]:
Why are you even listening to that? I know, I know, but you need those friends to kind of almost call you out like, you're being ridiculous right now. You really are. You know those things aren't true. How many times have I told you those things aren't true? And you're like, you're right, you're right. So.
Amy [00:12:08]:
Yeah, and that's the reality of it. We're not going to be for everyone. But it stings. When you get negative feedback about something you're doing, it really does sting. But the fact that you then were able to have someone call you out and be like, no, this is not true. This is one person. Our minds tend to magnify the negative as a survival mechanism. I mean, that is just how the human brain works.
Amy [00:12:33]:
But again, just goes to show the power of having a group of people around you that can help lift you up when you are down to help you keep going so that you can step into your purpose and impact even more lives. And an awesome way that you're doing this is by hearing this amazing event happening in September in Washington state. Tell us more about your event, who it's for, what they can expect. Give us all the details.
Jessica [00:13:02]:
Yeah, I'm so glad that you brought that up. So our conference in September is called power up. And last year I did a conference and there was an emphasis on the her. Again, I wanted that to be the theme this year. So pow. Pow. And then her in big, bold letters. It's really like a misconception with business ladies and society is that you have to be a business owner.
Jessica [00:13:29]:
But I cannot stress enough that we want all the women, because whether you are a business owner, you work for a corporation, you're a stay at home mom. You are doing the dang thing, and you need support, and you need women who are at a level where the conversation is different. You walk into the room and you know that there's just, there's something genuine, but also the quality is at a higher level. And so we may come together on the level of business, but that's. I tell a lot of people this, that's not why women in my community stay, because the relationships are so strong. So I encourage any woman who is a woman who needs a day where they just need to be surrounded by uplifting information, inspiration, building those experiences. All are invited. And we are so blessed to have some amazing speakers.
Jessica [00:14:32]:
Two of our speakers, Ellen Yin, who has a podcast, and she's just a plethora of knowledge, and she just won misses organ. So, you know, put another feather in her cap. She's amazing. And then we have miracle. And I always, poor thing, I always break up. Her last name, Olin Tonji. She is from Seattle and she has built a women's community and she's also written a book all about your purpose and your net worth and your network and how all those things really lead with impact. And so among many other speakers, we've got great subjects.
Jessica [00:15:13]:
Subjects for everyone, whether you're, you know, have a mom and pop shop or you're building this seven figure, you know, industry or not industry corporation. And I'm really excited about, we have diverse industries, we've got women in the trades. It's a really amazing group of women coming in from all areas. And so I love that we can learn from one another. And my most favorite part, it should be the conference. It should really be about that tactical information. But we are doing a vip night the night before, and that's really where the social, the connections are going to be. We're calling it slumber party again with an emphasis on the her and slumber.
Jessica [00:16:00]:
And so it should be a really great night. We're on vendors, shopping, dinner again, that's where the networking is going to happen. So just building those strong relationships and making it just one step easier going into the conference the next day. If you don't know anyone, you're going to totally know people by the next day. And those connections already can be built. And so then it'll be so much more comfortable to sit there and to really absorb the business aspect of it. So I'm excited.
Amy [00:16:29]:
Yeah, I mean, it really sounds like just such an uplifting yet tactical conference. Like, you're getting the mindset, you're getting the strategy, you're getting the connections, you're really pulling together all these vital pieces that we need as women running businesses, as women that are in leadership roles. No matter what that position is, it sounds like this is something for everyone, all women, to attend. So definitely make sure you check it out. If you go to blosw and sign up for Jessica's newsletter, she is going to send you a code to save $50 off of your ticket. So make sure you go check that out, grab your ticket, because this conference is going to be absolutely incredible. Jessica, thank you so much for just being so open and transparent with us, because this is the reality. This is the reality of entrepreneurship that we don't always see that we're always judging the highly real.
Amy [00:17:40]:
Right. So thank you.
Jessica [00:17:42]:
It's like, yeah. And I just want to add, you know, when you look at our social media, we. We think that entrepreneurship is not a lonely thing, but really, when it comes down to it, it is. And so I challenge every women, whether, wherever you are listening, find your community, find a similar high vibe event that gets you in the room and starts creating relationships with women that. So when this does happen, you have your tribe, and that's such a cliche word, but I'm sorry, it really is. It's meaningful. And so I challenge every woman, wherever you are, to look for that and then be active. Don't let it happen to you.
Jessica [00:18:28]:
Get in there and be active and vulnerable and authentic.
Amy [00:18:31]:
Yeah, that's. That is the key right there. The opportunities are out there. No matter where you live, there are opportunities in your area. And if you're not finding what nourishes your soul, what you need, start your own. There are some awesome opportunities out there. If you're nothing, seeing what you need, be the trailblazer to go first, to raise your hand and be like, okay, let's try it. Let's build it.
Amy [00:19:00]:
Because chances are you're not alone. So be willing to seek out those opportunities or build your own table if you need to. Jessica, thank you again so much for being here with us today.
Jessica [00:19:13]:
Thank you so much. Appreciate you.
Amy [00:19:15]:
And until next time, cheers to making the money you want so you can create the impact you desire.
Jessica [00:19:22]:
Love it.
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